Traditional marriage in Edo state, the list and the requirements. As it is in Edo state of Nigeria, traditional marriage is another important occasion in the area that people all over the world are interested in and as such, it is very important to have Edo state list and requirements put down for the interested young men who are looking towards having Edo beautiful ladies as wives.
More so, it seems so practical to have this post clearly mapped out because of one major reason; Edo people travel a lot and because of their natural beauty, their ladies mostly, they hardly escapes the attentions of the searching men from around the world, added to that is their ruggedness in making sure that their husbands are not looked down upon in any angle because of their hard working natures.
When I visited Edo state in times past, I had the opportunities of learning a little about their cultures in which marriage arrangements happened to be a vital part of and it gave me some insight into this article as you will be noticing while going through.
The Edo State Traditional Marriage Begins As Following:
After a man meets his wife to be, and arrangement will be made on when to visit the in-laws to be with his parents and other elderly relatives of his.
But a very important point to be aware of is to be adequately prepare yourself before making your intentions to marry an Edo lady known, her parents especially if you are non Edo indigene. This would enable you cut down some so many expenses of paying multi visits to your in-laws because of not planning ahead for the requirements.
This aspect of advance preparations is to be emphasized because the more readily you are in giving what your in-laws asks of you, the more easier it is for them to cut down on excesses because it gives them some quick run down of your abilities in taking care of them and their daughter after the marriage celebrations.
While it is true that Edo state is rich in traditions which definitely cost much money to perform and observe, when they notice that their in-laws to be has enough money to throw around publicly, they usually switch into a conservative mode probably not to allow their son in-law to squander it freely on the people…though this is rarely mentioned publicly, ….. just to let you know that I have had some close contacts with them!
So during this very first visit, every other underground protocols duly observed in terms of preparations e.t.c. Once everyone is seated, the bride’s family then entertains their visitors with drinks and kola nuts while sitting opposite themselves.
After the kola nuts are broken and eaten, the groom’s spokesman will now stand up and reveal the purpose of their visit and makes a proposal on behalf of their son to marry one of their daughters while he presents as gifts, drinks and kola nuts to the bride’s family.
The bride’s father or someone who is representing him would now call the lady and asked her if she knows the visitors and his family? Thereafter he will proceed by telling her the purpose of their coming and asks if she agrees to their proposal, if yes, that signifies the acceptance of the drinks presented but if No, that ends it there.
The answers are usually Yes! After the bride’s family accepts the the offer, a list would now be giving to the groom’s family and thereafter the bride’s family will now present food and drinks to everyone.
Wondering of what the list will look like? No need to worry because most of the times people just make up different stories of how exorbitant the bride’s price of different tribes in Nigeria is when it’s not really true.
So relax and take a look at how Edo state’s average bride’s price looks like and get prepared for your in-laws on the stipulated date of the traditional marriage.
Even though highly steeped in traditions, it may surprise you to know that the first thing on the list is the Holy Bible and that gives you the ideas on what to follow.
Traditional Marriage In Edo State, The List And Requirements:
(1.) The Holy Bible
(2.) An Umbrella
(3.) A box filled wrappers
(4.) NI,500 for the dowry
(5.) N5,000 for the bride’s mother
(6.) N9,000 for the bride’s lineage
N3,000 for the bride’s father
(7.) N6,000 for the women in bride’s lineage
(8.) 28 tubers of yam (7X4)
(9.) 14 tubers of yam for elders in the bride’s lineage
(10.) 6 Cartons of beer for the men, could be less sometimes.
(11.) 3 Crates of malts for the women
(12.) 25 litres of palm oil
(13.) 1 jar of palm wine (get the real measurement locally)
(14.) 2 bottles of Schnapps
(15.) 1 Plate of Kola nut
(16.) 1 Carton of wine for sundry usage, usually in the possession of the groom
This is a guide to put your mind at rest and also to give you some glimpse of what it takes to marry from Edo state in Nigeria bearing in mind that there have different ethnic groups with their own peculiar cultures related to their traditional marriages.
As a general guide, always stay close to your in-laws during and after your wedding for that gets you better prepared in whatever is expected from you as an in-law.