Recently, a big read on Reddit’s “Relationship Advice” forum sparked debate among many users as well as outside folk that heard of this man’s story from social media or articles online. Let’s get into it.
So, this man posted that he planned and paid for a family trip with his wife and his in-laws for family time. Recently on this trip his sister-in-law’s boyfriend just achieved sobriety, quite an achievement for most struggling with alcohol. Since this partner is sober, the couple won’t attend the family trip if there is alcohol involved to not jeopardize the sister-in-law’s boyfriend’s sobriety.
Of course, this sparked an issue since the man believed that he had a right to consume beer or alcohol if he paid for the trip. This was what he posted:
”My wife requested I don’t drink beer on a weekend trip I paid for. We’ve been together seven years and married for three. I paid for a weekend of cabins in May for our family (wife’s side) because they haven’t all been together since COVID-19. My mother-in-law and father-in-law, her two brothers, one sister, their partners and kids. We found out today that my sister-in-law’s boyfriend joined AA sometime last year, and they won’t attend if there is any alcohol.”
“I sprung for this trip because my wife deserves some much-needed, uninterrupted one-on-one time with family that isn’t over Zoom, and also because cabins/lakes/fishing/etc. has always been our way of celebrating hard work paid off.”
So the post continued to discuss why the trip was planned, and how the man posting and his wife, whose family is the one in question, love beer and spent much of their early relationship at bars or beer tasting events. But that she drinks less as they age, and he had to drink slightly less and exercise more for his health and body condition.
Even with all this background information on the table, the posting individual continues to become more irritated. He complains how it isn’t fair that he wouldn’t be allowed to drink beer while fishing on the trip that he paid for as well as stating it’s especially not reasonable because “one person might be uncomfortable”, one person he also points out isn’t married into the family and is just a boyfriend.
Obviously, as with many other posts on this Reddit thread there were many comments to reply to the situation and attempt to give advice. Readers were split on who seemed to be more “right” in the situation, but plenty pointed out that his complaints while partially founded were fairly insensitive. Sobriety is important for many people and often difficult to upkeep.
Most comments pointed out that this was a small thing to ask for his wife to see all of her family, and that it wouldn’t be that long without alcohol for the sake of his wife’s happiness. Basically they were explaining that it’s a smaller compromise for a larger win in his life and his wife’s happiness.
Overall, this was definitely an interesting post to the “Relationship Advice” thread that received some heated commentary from the posting individual as well as the readers adding their own advice below the original post. As far as last checked, there weren’t any updates added to show what the argument resolution turned out to be or if the trip continued as planned.
That was today’s short insight into recent interesting posts on Reddit about relationship struggles and arguments out in the world. It also shows a little about how communities work on Reddit to give advice and help to others.