The Evil Joy Of Canceling Outing Plans
When a friend cancels plans, the introvert not only breathes a sigh of relief but may also feel obliged to dance around the house. Plans that are axed equal freedom! Space! Time! Introverted to the max! Even though they know they’d do have a great time, and even if they were the ones who made the arrangements in the first place, the introvert enjoys the empowering feeling of canceled plans. The feeling is unmatched. Even better is when the other party cancels plans, relieving the introvert of guilt while also providing them with much-needed free time.
But why is this the case? Does this imply that the plans should never have been made in the first place? While some people blame the canceler, keep in mind that just because you canceled a plan doesn’t mean you shouldn’t have made it in the first place. Just because it feels good to bail on friends doesn’t mean you shouldn’t have them in the first place. You shouldn’t be in a group just because you feel good about canceling rehearsals.