Wife of Psquare’s Peter Okoye, Lola Omotayo has revealed how she was molested and s*xually abused as a teenager.
Lola came up with this revelation while she was addressing young ladies at the Kinabuti Dare2Dream event. The now mother of two, told the girls that while she was in high school, she was molested by a Catholic Priest, but couldn’t say it out because she thought no one was going to believe her.
“When I was a young girl in high school I was molested by a catholic priest and blamed myself. I was a child, I didn’t know any better, I didn’t know what to think, I didn’t know what to believe, I didn’t know how to feel. I blamed myself, I didn’t tell anyone, I was embarrassed, I was ashamed. I didn’t know if anyone was going to believe me and I didn’t even know if anybody was going to believe me. I felt like I did something wrong.
For many years, that incident stuck with me, I became rebellious, I was filled with hate, I didn’t want to listen to anyone and it turned me into a very angry person,and because I wanted to be expelled from school to avoid seeing this person, I would do so many terrible things, everything around me was just so negative, I felt I wasn’t good enough.” Lola Omotayo-Okoye said during a speech which was themed around not letting your past define you.
She also related her experience while in the university in America before breaking out to start a new life of her own.
She said “I moved on to the university, met the love of my life and I’m like, okay this guy is cool, he loves me but he started to abuse me. I was beaten black and blue all the time, in front of friends, in public and at a point, I felt, you know what, I am not worthy enough, there is nothing about me that is nice, nobody loves me but I hid this from my family. I felt like a loser, so it was hard for me to focus. But one day, I woke up and said I am going to change my story and I dumped that person, focused on my education and decided to be serious and be something. I decided to get a job and go to school full time in America”
What so many girls depend on today, was certainly not for her. she practically worked to make her own money to avoid depending on her parents or running after guys like some girls do.
I worked hard, my parents were sending me money because I didn’t tell them I was working but I was working because I wanted to be independent. I didn’t want to depend on any man or on my parents even though they would have done everything for me, so I did all sorts of job and that way, I built my confidence and today I am accomplished.” She further mentioned her husband and cited him as an example: “Look at my husband, when I met him, peeps were like what are you doing with him, he has nothing but I stood my ground and chose to stick with him because he had a dream. He and his twin brother did not let their dream die, they worked hard, look at them today! I stuck by him because he had focus and drive and today I am happy, I have a good life, we are happy and we have got a beautiful family. No one can make you a loser. She concluded by advising young ladies not to give up on their dreams. “You shouldn’t let your past determine what your destiny will be, we all have our past whether good or bad, we all had a life that we lived that we are not happy about.